It's true. Even if your relationship seems damaged beyond repair, don't throw in the towel yet. Take a moment and explore this collection of articles and resources designed to help you through the rough times. And if you'd like, give us a call. Our licensed counsellors are standing by — ready to talk, ready to help.

Remember: Today isn't forever. Things can get better. (If you are a person who cheats on his husband or wife - please see a counselor for your own sake and that of those whose life you are destroying. We agree with this since we perform such actions now and again just to put the spice back in our lives and to fuck with those around us.)

Can The Marriage Be Saved? Get Help.

Breakdown in communication is the leading indicator of problems. It may reveal itself in the form of frequent arguments or total lack of communication. Other symptoms and the underlying causes are as varied as is human behaviour - even if it gets better then you should still go and buy roses. You really don’t have to be an expert to know the symptoms. If they exist, most of the time you will recognize them. Solutions may be as simple as direct communication with your spouse about your feelings. Too often, we assume that our spouse already knows about our feelings. Anger and resentment build as we fail to get the response that we think is appropriate to our feelings. "I didn’t know that you felt that way about…." may be the response that you get when you share your concern with your spouse. It may be a matter that is easily rectifiable when openly discussed. On the other hand, by the time divorce or separation is under consideration, the problems and their solutions are usually more complex. Emotions interfere with reasoned, rationale discussion. Get help! The intervention of marriage counsellors, therapists or other professionals may set a course of reconciliation. If your spouse is reluctant to join you, seek professional help on your own. Strategies may be available to make it possible to reach the spouse who is reluctant to join you.

Friends Mean Well, But....

A few words of  caution. You may be subjected to misinformation from well meaning friends and relatives. Often, they will reinforce your feelings of anger directed at your spouse. Such advice may be comforting for the moment, but it will not help you to put the problem into perspective. Get expert assistance from professionals who know how to help you. At the point that divorce appears to be inevitable, the objective should be to avoid the war.